spiritual

Are we afraid of the present moment?

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A little while ago as I was working away daily on clearing my home of extra clutter, I went through several “memory boxes” I had of old letters, journals and other mementos. It was a very interesting process because it had been so, so long since I last looked at these items. Most of them were from the 1990’s when I was an exchange student in Mexico or later on in college. A quick look at most of these items made me realize that by keeping so many of these although I didn’t look at them, symbolically I was living a lot in the past. I began to wonder- Are we afraid of the present moment?

I posted a photo of my memory boxes and journals on social media and so many people said that it would be so very difficult for them to get rid of those items. It made me ponder my own attachments to these letters, journals and documents. Yes, it is important to have a record of where you have been, and maybe my son or future generations would like to look at these items to get to know more of who I was or what I did in life and my relationships. On the other hand, by keeping so, so much of this old stuff, I felt a bit stuck in the past and part of me felt held back by even having so many boxes and bags of the past hanging around. It felt like a strange old security blanket telling me to hold on, but not to look at my present moment and live here.

Here’s what I did with those old memories that I feel at peace with here in my present moment. I can tell you that I had to take 2 passes at my old papers in order to be at peace with what I kept and what I recycled. I didn’t look at every single letter, but I did save sections of letters from people that still matter to me now in my present moment. The limit I put on myself was that I could keep 1 notebook full of old cards and letters and one box of memories of journals/mementos. The last go-round of looking through those things and making the notebook took over two hours. However, I really feel so very much lighter and able to live right now in this beautiful moment with the rain falling outside my window. Right now I am content with who I am and who I am becoming and some memories along the way that I did choose to keep brought me to this moment here today.

This process made me realize that I was really afraid of the present moment. I was hanging on to a large amount of the past in the physical form of these items. A lot of times physical and also mental clutter from the past can hold us back from living our true potential right now. Having fewer of these items means that i can begin to live in the now.

Beginning with paring down the past by de-cluttering my old papers and journals was a great foundation for me to build upon to start being less afraid of the present moment in other ways as well. I began to get curious about why I kept checking email and social media multiple times a day. It can falsely feel like we are living in the present moment by checking up on “what’s going on.” but really we are still not in the present when on our phones so much. Things people post have already happened and you won’t get an important e-mail every 5 minutes. I noticed that every day starting in the morning I would be continually distracted by checking way too many apps. I was shocked to see that I was spending sometimes more than 5 hours a day on my phone!

Determined to get that time back and be more present with myself, my family, my friends and activities that matter to me, I experimented beginning with last weekend. I decided I would spend very little time on my phone, especially in the mornings. Mornings are my creative time, a time when my brain works best on things like writing and creating. I made sure to start my day out with meditation, tea and breakfast instead of the usual round-robin of checking email and social media. It felt so relaxing. It reminded me of the few letters that I did keep. I remember a time that we couldn’t instantly share what was going on in our lives every single second. We would save up our news and write it into letters for those living far away. We took extra care and time with those letters. We could live our lives in the present moment more, and just take a bit of time to write letters when we wanted to communicate with someone out of town.

My weekend experiment worked very well. I only checked email a couple of times and didn’t check social media at all. I was amazed at how much time I had to read, study my Japanese, do a bit of writing in my notebook and just relax a bit with my family. I really did reclaim those several hours a day and my brain didn’t feel as scrambled as it did when I was on my phone so much. It felt like real rest, real connection to the present moment and real connection to myself and others.

My question to you is: Are you afraid of the present moment? Can you get curious about what is going on there? How can you change your connection with the present moment and be there more each day? Leave a comment below or email me at:

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Your Sources of Joy

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Allowing is a really amazing word. When we allow ourselves to feel joy, to find the good in life, to find the good in lessons that we are being taught every day through our actions we can feel true bliss. What are your sources of joy? They can be the simple pleasures in life and they can also be big milestones of achievement. I believe every source of joy is valid and worth spending time reflecting on. Here are a few of my sources of joy.

  1. Family

  2. Friendships

  3. Creativity

  4. Food

  5. Baking

  6. Reading

  7. Spirituality/Universe

  8. Nature

  9. Travel

  10. Tea/Coffee

I will elaborate more on these in a later post, but first I would love to hear your list of 10 sources of joy. What are they? I would love to know! Please comment below or send me an email at: info@thecheerychef.com

Thank you!

With lots of love,

Trista

Feeding Your Spirit

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The field of the finite is all that we can see, hear, touch , remember and describe. This field is basically that which is manifest, or tangible. The essential quality of the infinite, by contrast, is its subtlety, its intangibility. This quality is conveyed in the word “spirit”, whose root meaning is “wind or breath.” This suggests an invisible but pervasive energy to which the manifest world of the finite responds. This energy, or spirit, infuses all living beings, and without it any organism must fall apart into its constituent elements. That which is truly alive in the living being is this energy of spirit, and this is never born and never dies.”

-David Bohm- This quote was quoted in the book “Source: The Inner Path of Knowledge of Creation.” by Joseph Jaworski

I believe that we all have an inner energy or spirit with us at all times and that loving this spirit within us can unlock all of our true potential and create harmony within ourselves and with others. A lot of times when we think of our health, we only think of the care of our physical body. I believe that we need to feed our spirit as well as our body with health and positivity. I do believe that our spirit lives on in many different ways and if we are able to get in touch with it and care for it, it will grow to a loving light to extend to others and impact so many lives.

Meditation Practice:

Because spirit’s root meaning is “wind or breath” it is important to feed our spirits with daily breath, or meditation. I am just now starting to really learn about meditation and to begin a practice. In the last month or so, most weekdays I have started to meditate silently for 15 minutes in the early morning before getting ready for the day. I have really liked this practice because the silence helps to train your brain as well as your spirit to pause and be in the moment throughout the day.

Recently I have read the most amazing book called “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.” by Dr. Joe Dispenza. In this book he teaches you about his meditation process to let go to memorized feelings that your mind and body react to on a daily basis. This morning was the first morning of doing the meditations and it was amazing! I can tell that as I go along I will be gaining momentum and feeding my spirit positive energy each morning. I will be sharing with all of you more about this process in the coming weeks.

Exercise:

I believe also that the body and mind are strongly connected, so for that reason, on days that I make an effort to get more exercise, I can feel that my spirits are also lifted. In this way in the mornings I am feeding my spirit by quieting my mind, paying attention to my breath and also giving my body physical energy by exercising as well. I can tell that I have so much more mental as well as physical energy on days that I exercise than on days when I don’t. It is an important reminder to my brain that exercise equals energy. It seems counter-intuitive sometimes because there are so, so many things to do in our days and we often feel that we don’t have time for these morning practices. However, I am working on training myself to remember that these 2 things are really essential to our well being of both mind, body and spirit. Each of these must be nourished in order to unlock our best lives and to impact others along the way.

In what ways do you feed your mind, body and spirit on a daily basis? I would love to know! Please comment below or send me an email at info@thecheerychef.com.

With lots of love,

Trista