I Have Decided

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In any given day there are so many choices to make. There are choices that are small, like what to eat for breakfast, and then there are bigger life choices that come up, like changing career paths. When we take too long to decide and waver between choices we are closing the doors on our possibility space. Small choices every day are easy, whereas big changes and choices can bring a lot of fear. Even choices that are exciting can cause us to feel uneasy because it requires us to decide.

The phrase: “I have decided” is so much more powerful that we an imagine and it is so underused on a daily basis. I learned about this phrase a few weeks ago and I feel that every time I say it I am creating more of my reality and I am really stepping into my true self.

Even with small choices saying “I have decided” really puts you in the driver’s seat of your own life. Often if we listen to our intuition we know exactly which path we want to choose, but we let so many factors get in the way of what we truly want and what is good for us and ultimately good for everyone around you. As a small example, think about choosing from a menu at a restaurant. So many times I have noticed that I immediately gravitate to one particular dish that sounds good to me. Then, I’ll still spend time looking at a few other dishes “just in case.” However, I always choose the first one that sounded good to me. I have to say if I choose the first one that I am drawn to, I always enjoy my meal. Has this happened to you?

We can use “I have decided’ with small and big choices to add more power, impact and permanence to our choices. We are really telling life “This is how I would like it.” It is just like putting in our order at the restaurant of the universe. I challenge you to choose one thing to say “I have decided” about today. Then, write it down and tell a friend.

Here’s one of my examples:

“I have decided I will always have fresh flowers on my dining table.”

This is something I have decided because it makes me feel awesome, it makes my home feel bright and cheery, it helps bring the natural world into my home and it feels like I am investing in the life that I love. During the spring and summer there are many flowers that I can bring in from my garden to make arrangements with. I know that during the winter I will need to invest in some flowers each week and that is a great thing because I am supporting a florist and allowing resources to flow from me to others.

This week I have made 2 very big decisions. One is to study a couple of courses in my industry so that I can be even more of a win-win to my clients. This is a big investment in myself but I have decided that this will bring more resources to me and in turn I will use those resources to return to others in my community. This allows resources to continually flow instead of getting stuck. Another choice I have made this week is that I have decided to join a great networking group in my community that I believe will be a great way for me to get to know others in my community and partner with them in creating lots of abundance and lots of ways.

My challenge to you this week is to write down and act on 5 “I have decided” statements. You will begin to see how powerful those words are. You are showing life that you know what is best for you and what will be best for all of those around you if you truly follow your heart.

With lots of love,

Trista

Future Decluttering

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As parents we often think that our children will want to inherit our things. We keep lots of things to one day pass on to them. However when it really comes down to it, your children only want time & memories with you. The present moment is all that we have and all that we should be concerned with giving to our children. The rest is really just stuff that they may or may not want.

If we are hanging on to things only because we think that our children or relatives may want it one day when we downsize or when we pass away, we need to rethink things. It is so very important to keep only things that: we enjoy looking at, we use on a regular basis. All else can go. We can let go of it. Our children and relatives will have their own things that they love to look at or use regularly.

We owe it to our future to de-clutter now, pare down our things so that our children and relatives are not saddled with the large task of deciding what stays and what goes. Of course, there will be plenty of things still left, even in a de-cluttered household. However, if we minimize what we keep now, it will be so much easier when an eventual change of home or downsize happens and your relatives need to help you with the process.

Think not only of today, but of the future when deciding what things to keep in your home. I think it’s important to not only enjoy the results of minimizing your things now, but to enjoy them in the future too because you will have fewer things to move and deal with later on.

When you focus on living in the present instead of saving too many things for the future, you will be leaving a legacy of fun memories and love instead of too many things to go through. I urge you to minimize your things now and instead of acquiring more things, acquire more memories by: taking days off, spending time with friends, inviting people over for a meal, planning a vacation and more! The future really is now in this moment and it is ours to enjoy with freedom and peace in our homes and lives.

Joyful Minimalism: 

If you are ready to explore your things but need  support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients. 

I have 3 home clearing packages to choose from: 

Services:

http://expansive.me/services

Storytime

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When we were children we immersed ourselves in stories. We were read stories by our parents, we read books on our own and we lived out our fantasy stories all day long as we played.

I have a story for you. Growing up, I was fortunate to have my grandparents living with us in our home. My parents built a large home before I was born with several acres of land which had a lot of beautiful trees on it. They still live there and it is beautiful. My grandparents (my dad’s parents) came to live with us and stay in our basement which was turned into a large apartment space for them. It was amazing to see them every day and share our lives with them.

I remember vividly when I was about preschool age on the days I didn’t go to school or in the afternoons my grandpa would ask me “Queenie (his nickname for me) what will you do in your realm today?” I remember looking out with him onto the beautiful hills in the distance and really feeling that story to be true, that I had a whole realm to explore in every day. I would live in my own stories back then, playing for hours on end in the forest areas and around the yard of the house, sometimes with my dolls in tow. The world was completely open to me, it was all mine to be free in, to be happy in. There was freedom, peace and joy in each day and each day meant a new exploration in my realm.

Somehow, when we start to get older, we feel that we no longer can tell our own stories, that our stories are now set out for us by others, or by our circumstances or things that happen to us in life. Instead of being the leader in our own stories like we were as children, we become the victim in our own stories. We begin to tell negative stories about how we are, what we can and can’t do and why things won’t work out for us. At what point does this happen? How can we get back to our core selves that we once were?

I have always been a sunny optimist, that is my core self, however some of that got lost along the way and I am reclaiming it. I do not blame anyone for the loss of some of it, because it was always up to me to reclaim that joyful wonder that I had as a child. I have always felt it somewhere, but I am feeling it much more now. I do believe it is just an awareness that has come over me all of the sudden, like a sprinkle of magical sparkles. The wonder of each moment is coming back and I am reclaiming what was always there and never lost.

I have been writing my own new stories for the past few weeks. I usually write these stories in the morning while I sit in my beautiful backyard garden. It is such a peaceful and beautiful space for me to write in. This morning after I wrote one of my stories I saw a beautiful yellow finch. I think that was the universe saying to me “Great job on your stories, you are finding your spark again.” I felt that the bird was bringing me back to my realm of magic and wonder. Thank you yellow finch!

A story exercise that I invite you to do is this one:

Write a paragraph about last week. Pretend that 3 great things happened that you have been intending to happen. Throw in one great thing that did happen last week. This will start training your brain to think that those things really did happen. You will see the great effects of this!

Please feel free to comment on your experience with past and present stories!

Joyful Minimalism: 

If you are ready to explore your things but need  support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients. 

I have 3 home clearing packages to choose from: 

Services:

http://expansive.me/services



What space are you creating?

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This spring we are nearing the end of a project to clear some large items and a few boxes and bags of small items in our garage in anticipation of buying an electric car in the coming months. This photo above is my dream car- a red Tesla!

I have a super fun game that I play every day to see how many Teslas I can spot on the road. It’s super fun! Many times I see this red one too! My favorite!

It’s often great to have a goal in mind for the space you are creating while de-cluttering your home. Having those pictures of dreams in your mind can really encourage you and spur you on going forward.

Here are some questions to ask yourself about your spaces:

  1. How do I want to feel in this space? What does peace in this space look like and feel like to me?

  2. What do I picture myself doing in this space?

  3. What new possibilities am I opening up in my life by clearing out the clutter in this space?

  4. What surprises am I allowing for by creating some space? Empty spaces as well as empty drawers and shelves can create great energy for many things to show up in your life! You will be surprised!

Now that our garage space is nearly cleared the energy feels light and every day I see more and more Teslas! They are like a trail of beautiful dream “breadcrumbs” on the way to my intentions coming true. I can just see the car in that space. Create more space for more possibilities in your home and in your life.

When you clear a space for yourself and your dreams in your home and on your calendar you are creating freedom and peace for yourself. You will be shocked at the amazing outcomes!

What spaces are you making for yourself? Feel free to comment below! Make sure to leave space in your home and on your calendar for your dreams to grow!

Joyful Minimalism: 

If you are ready to explore your things but need  support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients. 

I have 3 home clearing packages to choose from: 

Services:

http://expansive.me/services

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