Clearing Your Path

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This whole month of September my intention has been one of clearing, growth and learning. When you are on the path to something big, lots of things that are in your way need to be cleared away. Those things are not just physical items blocking your path to growth and change, (although that’s what I help clients and myself with all of the time), they can also be in the form of:

  • digital obstacles

  • old accounts

  • old mindsets

  • old paperwork

  • old intentions

  • online clutter

  • lack of accountability/mindfulness

  • groups that aren’t working for you

This past week was a major clearing week. It can feel wonderful once the process is over, but during the process it can be daunting and scary to your mind at times. When we truly face our things whether they are physical items, digital items or things we are doing or have promised others we come up against growing pains. It is like we are starting to become a new person, clearing away the layers and learning where to walk on our new path.

Here are the items that I cleared away or started on last week (sometimes clearing can be starting something new, like if you had an intention of doing something, then finally did it, that clears away that “to do” item):

  • I let go of a group I had been in for my business for the past few months. This was a very tough choice for me because I really connected with everyone in this group. We will all stay connected, remain friends and get together sometimes, but still this was a hard choice. I had found that the focus of this group was mostly on “pop up shops” and opportunities to sell items, however I was one of the only service businesses in the group so I felt that I would be better served joining a wider group of women business owners in the area that has a mix of services and products so I could do more networking and collaborate more. It was very hard to let go of this group even though I know it was the right choice for me and my business. This feels great because I can still support my dear friends in this group!

  • I joined a new business group and went to my second meetup with that group last week. It was awesome and it cleared my path even more to my intentions because it had been on my “to do” list for so long. It felt good to take that step forward on my path. This feels awesome because I can be part of a large, successful group and we can support each other!

  • My next step forward in clearing was to open my new business account for Joyful Minimalism officially at the local credit union. I had gotten my LLC set up and my tax ID number, but I had yet to open my new account. This felt like another step forward on my path. My next step here is to clear out by closing down 2 old business accounts that I no longer use. This will really clear my path forward. It feels amazing to take ownership of my resources here!

  • Another step I took to clear my path last week was to set a clear budget, clear away any old expenses for my old business I no longer needed by canceling those accounts and set up a system for depositing certain amounts into checking and savings each time I am paid from a client. Taking clear responsibility for sticking to these rules and setting up this system feels amazing!

  • I have decided that each month I will go to at least 2 meetups with my new business groups and set up at least 1 coffee meet up with a member of that group each month. I am on track to attend at least 2 meetups this month and I have 2 coffee meetings scheduled. That feels great! This clears my path to abundance and growth!

  • To clear my path with good health I decided to visit the podiatrist last week and as a result of his advice I have set up an appointment to have a procedure done to remove both big toenails that have experienced trauma due to bumping into things and the nails have grown thick. This will put me clearly on the road to recovery with my feet and will clear my path to healthy toenails and feet once again. This clears my path to taking the best care of my feet always because my work with clients and at home for my family involves me being on my feet a lot. I am truly thankful for this step in clearing because it means I will also take a mini-vacation off of my feet in mid-October for a few days to recover and rest. This feels amazing!

  • The last item of clearing last week was to sign up for and start studying 2 certification courses from an online design school. I am studying Professional Organizing (more in depth) and also Aging in Place to help seniors live safely and happily in their own homes. This feels amazing because I will be able to further practice my craft, learn even more to help current and future clients and I will be able to help seniors in my community!

I would love to hear from you how you are clearing your path to success? I know that each person’s path differs and the obstacles differ as well. One person may have more physical clutter in their path and another may have more digital clutter or intentional clutter (items on a to-do list), however whatever you can clear from your path will help you keep taking those steps forward.

Joyful Minimalism:

If you are ready to explore your things but need support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients.

I have 2 consultations to choose from that help guide us to how I can best help you de-clutter your space. I also have an hourly rate after that for me to de-clutter and organize your space in a detailed manner.

Services:

http://expansive.me/services

Find out more on my website:

http://expansive.me


My Real Life Off Social Media

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It has now been more than 30 days since I have been on social media other than posting a medium.com article from the medium.com site. I have not scrolled through Facebook or Instagram in more than 30 days now and I can say that I don’t plan to in the foreseeable future. I set off on this experiment to un-clutter my mind and to gain back so much time in my days. I thought that I would take 30 days off, and then go back to a different schedule with social media. The main reason I went off social media is that for the first time in my life I could see that I was really getting addicted to something. I found myself checking my phone way too often and even times when I was off my phone I was wondering what was going on Facebook or Instagram. I often took so many photos only to think about posting them. This is not to say that sharing about our lives is a bad thing, but when it overtakes your days and your time, that is the time that the addiction has taken over our lives.

I feel that I have gained so very much from being off social media:

  • Connecting personally one on one with friends and family. Whether it is through a text, message, email or phone call, it is very special now to actually just communicate one on one with a friend. I find it’s much more personal to share photos or happenings in this way.

  • Connecting more with people in person. I have always loved to get together with friends every 1-2 months in person for coffee, tea, lunch, brunch, dinner or any fun activity. It’s really an important way to connect with others and keep our friendships alive and support each other. This month I have 3 events with friends on the calendar. I’m so thrilled about this!

  • Having more time to work on projects at home. The other day I took a day off and: rearranged my son’s furniture in his room so it works better, repainted a bathroom vanity, spent time making myself a latte at home and read an interesting book.

  • Having more space in my mind to truly think about the important things in life, what I want to do for myself, my family and the world.

  • Feeling free to be myself and create the life I want to create for myself and my family.

  • Taking time to daydream and plan amazing things like travel.

  • Taking time to make recipes I have been hanging on to in books and notebooks for such a long time.

  • Actually making many of the recipes I found on Pinterest.

I feel that the benefits are so very many! So far my friends have really understood and reached out to me outside of social media and I really appreciate them for that.

I found it interesting what was said in this New Yorker article about social media. It points out that even though through social media you can remain in contact with lots more people, you are spread more thinly trying to keep up with all of them and your ties are weaker:

With social media, we can easily keep up with the lives and interests of far more than a hundred and fifty people. But without investing the face-to-face time, we lack deeper connections to them, and the time we invest in superficial relationships comes at the expense of more profound ones. We may widen our network to two, three, or four hundred people that we see as friends, not just acquaintances, but keeping up an actual friendship requires resources. “The amount of social capital you have is pretty fixed,” Dunbar said. “It involves time investment. If you garner connections with more people, you end up distributing your fixed amount of social capital more thinly so the average capital per person is lower.”

from “The Limits of Friendship” The New Yorker- by Maria Konnikova

For me personally I would rather strengthen friendships that I already have outside of social media and do more in-person networking. I have found that the type of work that I do requires a strong connection to someone, or a strong referral from someone who really knows the work that I do. I am strengthening these by getting to know people in person and really learning about them in real life. I feel that for me personally this is the life that I want to lead. I know that others really enjoy and can handle social media and it helps them remain in touch with people. I think that everyone has a different threshold, and for me I function better with one to one communication. For others, I think there is a place for social media.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you tried a few days off social media? How have you felt? I have decided to now share my thoughts through this blog only and I will share it on social media for those that find it easier to find me there.

Thank you so much for joining me here in this space.

With lots of love,

Trista

Joyful Minimalism:

If you are ready to explore your things but need support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients.


I have 2 consultations to choose from that help guide us to how I can best help you de-clutter your space. I also have an hourly rate after that for me to de-clutter and organize your space in a detailed manner.


Services:


http://expansive.me/services

Find out more on my website:


http://expansive.me

Everything Comes with a Contract

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Just imagine that every time you brought anything into your home, it came with a detailed contract that you would need to review and sign, promising to take care of the item, find a place for it and look after it for as long as it remained useful to you. We don’t tend to think of it, but every item we own has an invisible contract attached to it. Contracts would be attached to everything from a toaster to a new bath towel.

Such a contract might read:

-You must promise to keep me clean, and in working order.

-You must promise to repair me immediately.

-You must find a proper storage space for me.

-You must make sure to replace me when I wear out, and give me away or dispose of me properly.

When we really think about it, the more items we own, the more contracts like these we are actually signing and agreeing to. When we decide to de-clutter and clear our homes of items that we can no longer hold contracts on, it frees us up so much and creates more peace in our lives.

Imagine if you could have a conversation with an item on a crowded garage shelf:

Fancy Tart Pan: You know, I have sat here for 5 years, all dusty and you haven’t made a single tart with me.

You: Yes, I understand. I just don’t bake much anymore, and when I do, it’s simple items. How about I give you away to a new home where you’ll be better cared for.

Fancy Tart Pan: That sounds much better. Maybe they can actually keep up with my contract.

Yes, that tart pan can be quite demanding, right? If we can imagine the contracts and the conversations our things would have with each other, this would be how it would go. When we let go of items and realize that they will find good homes with others who can use them, we can free up our space and free up our lives from the worry of upkeep and looking after so many things.

And yes, I will give away that tart pan today that is in my garage.

With lots of love,

Trista

Joyful Minimalism:

If you are ready to explore your things but need support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients.

I have 2 consultations to choose from that help guide us to how I can best help you de-clutter your space. I also have an hourly rate after that for me to de-clutter and organize your space in a detailed manner.


Services:

http://expansive.me/services

Find out more on my website:

http://expansive.me


Letting Go of Annoyances

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I believe that annoyances or things that make us angry can be a form of clutter in our lives. Many times we carry around mental clutter that is blocking us from our best lives and it can be more of an obstacle than physical clutter at times.

I will give an example in my own life. Yesterday I got a call from someone who I thought wanted to meet up, get to know me and see if we could refer business to each other, or I thought that their office needed my help from the sound of the voicemail. The call started off in that direction, however in a short amount of time the call resulted in them wanting to sell me advertising in a guide they were putting together.

This created a huge annoyance in my mind. When we expect one thing and then another, less desirable thing happens, it can really annoy us and get on our nerves. It can create blockages to doing our best work the rest of the day, or even into the next day. This was the case with me. I am rarely annoyed, but this really got to me. I really love to develop real relationships with people both in personal friendships and business partnerships, so that tactic really doesn’t fit my values. I always want relationships to be a win-win situation and this did not seem so to me. I was not given the chance to get to know them and they were not getting to know me either.

The next day this call and interaction was still bothering me and really putting a cloud on a sunny day for me. I decided I needed to let go of this so that I could move on to much more important and meaningful work- writing these blog posts and reaching out to my audience to help them.

Here is what I did:

I wrote down the annoyance- just one paragraph. Then, I put at the bottom- I am letting go. I am surrendering. Goodbye!

After that I crumpled up the paper and put it in the fire pit and lit it on fire. I watched as it turned to ashes and the weight of the annoyance lifted. I was able to sit and enjoy the sunshine in the garden and watch the squirrels chase each other. Life was back to the light and I could move on.

Have you had an annoyance that weighed on you for more than a day? How did you handle it?

Please let me know in the comments below.

With lots of joy,

—Trista

Joyful Minimalism: 

If you are ready to explore your things but need  support and would like to work with me one on one, feel free to reach out to me by email and I can send you a client survey and set up a call with you. I can work with local clients and long distance clients. 

I have 3 home clearing packages to choose from: 

Services:

http://expansive.me/services

Find out more on my website:

http://expansive.me