I Have Decided

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In any given day there are so many choices to make. There are choices that are small, like what to eat for breakfast, and then there are bigger life choices that come up, like changing career paths. When we take too long to decide and waver between choices we are closing the doors on our possibility space. Small choices every day are easy, whereas big changes and choices can bring a lot of fear. Even choices that are exciting can cause us to feel uneasy because it requires us to decide.

The phrase: “I have decided” is so much more powerful that we an imagine and it is so underused on a daily basis. I learned about this phrase a few weeks ago and I feel that every time I say it I am creating more of my reality and I am really stepping into my true self.

Even with small choices saying “I have decided” really puts you in the driver’s seat of your own life. Often if we listen to our intuition we know exactly which path we want to choose, but we let so many factors get in the way of what we truly want and what is good for us and ultimately good for everyone around you. As a small example, think about choosing from a menu at a restaurant. So many times I have noticed that I immediately gravitate to one particular dish that sounds good to me. Then, I’ll still spend time looking at a few other dishes “just in case.” However, I always choose the first one that sounded good to me. I have to say if I choose the first one that I am drawn to, I always enjoy my meal. Has this happened to you?

We can use “I have decided’ with small and big choices to add more power, impact and permanence to our choices. We are really telling life “This is how I would like it.” It is just like putting in our order at the restaurant of the universe. I challenge you to choose one thing to say “I have decided” about today. Then, write it down and tell a friend.

Here’s one of my examples:

“I have decided I will always have fresh flowers on my dining table.”

This is something I have decided because it makes me feel awesome, it makes my home feel bright and cheery, it helps bring the natural world into my home and it feels like I am investing in the life that I love. During the spring and summer there are many flowers that I can bring in from my garden to make arrangements with. I know that during the winter I will need to invest in some flowers each week and that is a great thing because I am supporting a florist and allowing resources to flow from me to others.

This week I have made 2 very big decisions. One is to study a couple of courses in my industry so that I can be even more of a win-win to my clients. This is a big investment in myself but I have decided that this will bring more resources to me and in turn I will use those resources to return to others in my community. This allows resources to continually flow instead of getting stuck. Another choice I have made this week is that I have decided to join a great networking group in my community that I believe will be a great way for me to get to know others in my community and partner with them in creating lots of abundance and lots of ways.

My challenge to you this week is to write down and act on 5 “I have decided” statements. You will begin to see how powerful those words are. You are showing life that you know what is best for you and what will be best for all of those around you if you truly follow your heart.

With lots of love,

Trista

So, What Do I Want?

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There are three words that we say and hear day in and day out that if we redirect them and change them, they can have a great impact on our lives. What are those words? “Don’t, Not and No.” Many times we have no idea the power that words have on shaping our lives and creating our reality. Those words limit our possibilities. They show life what we don’t want, so more of that appears for us. We need to make a major shift in the ways that we communicate to ourselves and others in our daily lives so that we may change our stories and our realities.

This is something that I learned through a podcast I found my Michael Losier who is a Canadian author and teacher. He posted a podcast with about 20 lessons a few years ago that I just happened to find recently. What I love about learning every single day is that you can take what works for you and then leave the rest. This lesson is one that really resonated for me, so I use it every day now.

I wrote on a sticky note “Don’t, Not and No.” and put a line through it. On another sticky note I wrote “So what do I want?” I see these every day when I open up my daily journal to write in. I am planning to also post them elsewhere so I see them every day. Through repetition we can change our habits and our ways of thinking which then changes our results in life. When I catch myself saying one of those three words I can ask myself: “So what do I want?” This helps so much! You can redirect your statements into what you want and not focus on what you don’t want.

Here’s an example: I recently injured both of my big toenails. The nails have become thick and I will go to see a podiatrist to see what is needed to cure these toenails and get them back to normal and healthy again. Instead of googling things about toenails and seeing photos I don’t want to see, I decided to make a Pinterest board of pretty pedicure designs and foot bath ideas for taking care of my feet. What I DO WANT is for my feet to be healthy and pretty again and to be able to go to pedicures often and learn to take very good care of my feet. I have enjoyed looking at the pretty nail designs and that is a great thing to focus on. I also have decided to look at this as an opportunity to learn how to take care of my feet and to keep them that way.

We can also use this technique to communicate what we do want from others when we are asking them to do something. Instead of saying “Don’t play your music so loud,” we can say “Play your music more softly please”, or “Can you use your headphones, please?” This is a more helpful way of stating how we would like things and is clearer as well.

Words matter much more than we think they do. There will be times when we forget this lesson, but the more we practice, the better we will become at asking ourselves what we do want, and redirecting ourselves in that direction.

A fun way to use this is when you notice that there is something that could use improving in your life, focus on it by creating collages with how you would like it to be, or make Pinterest boards for every subject that you are interested in making better in your life. A few minutes of focus a day will help your brain pay more attention to ways in which to make these improvements a reality. Soon, some opportunities will pop up! For example, I have created Pinterest boards for Europe travel that we want to do. Soon, many shows, movies and conversation points have popped up about Europe recently. It’s really so much fun to focus on what we do want in life.

I would love to know how redirecting has helped you! Please comment below or email me at: trista.signe.ainsworth@gmail.com

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Happy Failures

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The other day I sent a photo of my side garden to a long distance friend. I told her that this now successful side garden made up of mostly free plants that I got from my Aunt’s garden, some plants I got from the farmer’s market long ago and about 3-4 perennials that I bought and planted was a result of many “happy failures.” This story of the evolution of my side garden is one that can teach us a lot about failing and getting up again in life.

I remember at one time there were two large trees there. They were two close to the house and provided too much shade and roots for planting much in the side garden. We had them removed. Then, I tried some different plants there. First, I started with some annuals. They did ok, but required a lot of watering and much more fuss than what I have now. Later I planted most of the plants that I have now when my Aunt was thinning out her garden and she gave me lots of plants. I worked as quickly to plant those plants along with the large plants that I got from the farmer’s market. Part of the front of the garden was still bare. Over the years I tried different plants there. Some of them didn’t like the full sun, others grew too “leggy” and I didn’t like the way they looked with the rest of the plants and others were too small or short and got “lost.” in the other plants. A few days ago I bought one last perennial to fill in a gap for a plant that eventually died because that spot wasn’t right for it. Now, I feel that I have a fully lovely and functioning garden which will take little water and maintenance other than occasionally weeding in that area. Luckily the plants are now mostly so large that there aren’t many weeds that grow there. I’m so glad that I learned so much from this garden. I learned what plants grow best where, how much sunlight they need and also that it’s important to space plants of different heights in different spots.

This garden project reminds me also that even when we “get it right” there will be work to do. The garden must still be watered and weeded in order to flourish. So is our life. Even when we find the perfect mix of career/business/family/friends/free time we still need to stop and nourish ourselves along the way. We need to stop and see if we are truly thriving where we are currently rooted, or if we need to make a change to really grow and blossom in our lives.

How can we equate this garden project with life? Here are some ways:

  1. There are many things that we will try in life that may not survive or may not be a good fit for us. This can be relationships, careers and places we live. They simply may not agree with our true selves or how we want to live.

  2. Sometimes our projects don’t take root because we think we “ought” to do it, or it’s the next logical step, but our hearts aren’t in it.

  3. Sometimes we need a break. Our area of the garden is “too shady.” We need to take a moment to step out into the light to see our true potential. We need to stop what we are doing and look within for the answers.

  4. Sometimes we need to fail in order to learn a particular lesson. We need to look at difficult times and challenges as lessons that come to teach us something. Just like some of the plants that didn’t do well in that area were telling me- move me or compost me. Sometimes we need a different perspective or need to learn to quit and move on to another project, job, home or relationship.

What have your happy failures taught you? I’d love your comments below on this post with your stories!

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Storytime

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When we were children we immersed ourselves in stories. We were read stories by our parents, we read books on our own and we lived out our fantasy stories all day long as we played.

I have a story for you. Growing up, I was fortunate to have my grandparents living with us in our home. My parents built a large home before I was born with several acres of land which had a lot of beautiful trees on it. They still live there and it is beautiful. My grandparents (my dad’s parents) came to live with us and stay in our basement which was turned into a large apartment space for them. It was amazing to see them every day and share our lives with them.

I remember vividly when I was about preschool age on the days I didn’t go to school or in the afternoons my grandpa would ask me “Queenie (his nickname for me) what will you do in your realm today?” I remember looking out with him onto the beautiful hills in the distance and really feeling that story to be true, that I had a whole realm to explore in every day. I would live in my own stories back then, playing for hours on end in the forest areas and around the yard of the house, sometimes with my dolls in tow. The world was completely open to me, it was all mine to be free in, to be happy in. There was freedom, peace and joy in each day and each day meant a new exploration in my realm.

Somehow, when we start to get older, we feel that we no longer can tell our own stories, that our stories are now set out for us by others, or by our circumstances or things that happen to us in life. Instead of being the leader in our own stories like we were as children, we become the victim in our own stories. We begin to tell negative stories about how we are, what we can and can’t do and why things won’t work out for us. At what point does this happen? How can we get back to our core selves that we once were?

I have always been a sunny optimist, that is my core self, however some of that got lost along the way and I am reclaiming it. I do not blame anyone for the loss of some of it, because it was always up to me to reclaim that joyful wonder that I had as a child. I have always felt it somewhere, but I am feeling it much more now. I do believe it is just an awareness that has come over me all of the sudden, like a sprinkle of magical sparkles. The wonder of each moment is coming back and I am reclaiming what was always there and never lost.

I have been writing my own new stories for the past few weeks. I usually write these stories in the morning while I sit in my beautiful backyard garden. It is such a peaceful and beautiful space for me to write in. This morning after I wrote one of my stories I saw a beautiful yellow finch. I think that was the universe saying to me “Great job on your stories, you are finding your spark again.” I felt that the bird was bringing me back to my realm of magic and wonder. Thank you yellow finch!

A story exercise that I invite you to do is this one:

Write a paragraph about last week. Pretend that 3 great things happened that you have been intending to happen. Throw in one great thing that did happen last week. This will start training your brain to think that those things really did happen. You will see the great effects of this!

Please feel free to comment on your experience with past and present stories!

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