It's Not About Me!


There is a realization that has come to me in the past few days as I have been learning and growing (a continual process, as life is) with all that I do that I love so much- it's not about me! 

As I learn to let go of the outcomes of all of my goal-setting, planning and starting a business again, it has all become so very clear to me what I have been missing all of this time. It is a very simple statement, but it is so profound. I used to think: Why haven't I been more successful, why don't I have better numbers? Now, I am more focused on the people, the rich experiences and all the joy that I can create for others in my life through the vehicle of doing what I love- baking and cooking! 

I have learned from some material I have been studying and others ( I am lucky to have found a great accountability partner and we cheer each other on weekly), I have been learning from that the most important thing in life, success and business-building is: other people- helping them, helping your community, creating joy every day. Those are the most important building blocks. Letting go of how things turn out, how much money you make, how "successful" you are, how many followers you have, or any other external outcomes makes life so much more joyful! 

This is not to say that I have let go of goal-setting or planning or dreaming by any means. I have just found a better way to go about things that brings so much more joy into the world. I have now decided to let go of numbers and outcomes and focus on being in a joyful space each day. Building a joyful life is made up of so many things! This can take many forms as I'll outline below. 

1. Focus on community: I'll be focusing on how I can help others with my baking by holding a charity bake sale, donating to other events and seeing what else I can do to contribute. 

2. Let go of numbers: I no longer have number goals. I cannot control numbers but I can work towards getting better each day, growing as a person and helping more people. 

3. Say yes to more opportunities: I was recently contacted to teach some cooking classes at Feed The Mass, a local non-profit and I said yes to this! Also, I am working on getting a booth at a gluten free fest this fall! 

4. Work on my art: Every week I'll be working on more baking projects to build my portfolio and get feedback from others to see if those are items they would like or if I should create something else. 

5. Join community groups/volunteer: I have always wanted to join a Rotary Club because I was an exchange student to Mexico in 1991-92 and in the year 2000 I went on a group exchange to Japan for a whole month. I really love how they have service projects in the community and I want to be a part of that. I will also look for other ways to serve. 

6. Set 3 month goals, 1 year goals and beyond for the rich experiences that they bring to life. With the help of my accountability partner I have set some great goals that are both project based and about habits. Life is all about the experiences you have and the memories you make with family and friends. These goals are in alignment with those and they bring me great joy! 

7. Work with others: See how I can partner with others instead of working alone. I really love to work with other people and I am mostly extroverted. I love spending time with people and learning how we can work together to create something amazing! 

8. Keep learning, sharing and growing! I love to keep learning about the world and how I can do better each day. I continue to take courses, read books and work with others to discover lots of amazing things! 

Thank you for continuing to be with me on life's journey! It is an amazing place and there is much joy to be had! 

I'd love to hear from you big realizations in life that you have had- feel free to write me back about your experiences or comment below. 

With lots of care, love and joy,



Trista Ainsworth

I am a professional organizer and decluttering expert. I help clients create more peace, joy and freedom in the spaces in their homes and businesses.